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How To Jumpstart Your Dating Life In 2012


Photo courtesy of Bob Jagendorf 

With the New Year upon us, it is easy to kick back over the holidays and muse about all the things that sucked in 2011. Don’t do that. A new beginning follows the year-end and it is up to you to take charge of the results. And the best time to get started is by having a plan, so here are some Guy’s Guy resolutions for sparking up your dating life and igniting a new year for love.

1-Leave The Past Where It Belongs…In The Past– It’s easy to get all mopey if your love life did not shine as brightly as you wanted during this crazy past year. There was so much toxic news spewed out by the media- an endless financial crisis, corrupt politicians, a man dying after his penis is injected with silicon cement, and another season of those dreadful housewife shows. What to do? Start by breathing and letting go of good old 2011. You made it through the haze, kiddo, so give yourself a pat on the back and remind yourself of all of the good things you accomplished like not saying anything when that big, smelly guy squeezed into the middle seat next to you on the C train last August and would not stop moaning and slurping as he stared at that toe cleavage in your Jimmy Choos the entire ride to 96th Street or when….oh, you know what I mean.  It doesn’t matter because that was last year and it’s over. Let the damn thing go.
2-Live In The Now– There is a new year ahead and with it comes the possibility of great beginnings and change. After all, it really only takes one connection between two people to forge the bond that makes a great couple. Decide what you want in your partner and why. Then ask yourself if you are being realistic and fair to your potential partners. Don’t ask for the moon if all you have to offer is green cheese.
3-Chuck The List– That’s right. Take that mental checklist- you know the one that starts with his being a six foot three investment banker with smoldering eyes and twenty million in an offshore account just waiting to be spent on you. Yeah, that one. Toss it before it imprisons you. When you’re open, life brings surprises. When you get too controlling, you usually get frown lines and crows feet, and thems for birds, not for chicks like you. If you got everything you wanted whenever you wanted it, either your name is Beyonce or you’re an heiress. For the rest of us, and no one is suggesting that you sell yourself short, but if you are encumbered by too many rules, you’ll probably suffocate your sparkling energy, which is what attracts potential suitors. Now, does that make sense? 
4- Smile– Nothing generates a better reaction that a smile or laughter. When you lose your sense of humor, things can get dreary pretty quickly. Don’t be concerned if every date doesn’t turn out perfectly. Move on, keep your head up and smile. There are a lot more where he came from. Believe me. 
5- Get Out– Unless you want to lose your social skills by spending your weekends uploading your baby pictures on FB, get up, get out, and get into something new. Action creates more action and it’s all connected. Decide what turns you on, and then take a class, run around the park, shoot photos, learn a language, or just have lunch with an old friend. Staying at home with your sweet lovable Fluffy will not bring you closer to meeting The One. He’s probably out doing something, and he’s probably looking for someone just like you.
Okay, I know a lot of this is easier said than done, but you can do it. Remember, no one has a better future than you.
Are you ready for a New Year or are you going to drop the ball after New Years Eve?