In A Culture Built Around Judging, How Can We Possibly Get Along?

Turn on any media outlet and there is a show built around judging others.

When Survivor made its debut over ten years ago, the winning contestant was the person who demonstrated the best survival skills in the classic sense—successfully foraging for food in the jungle while avoiding getting nipped by a crocodile. Over time, the template seems to have changed to get rid of the most skilled contestant and form “alliances” that determine who will be the next person to … read more

Our Cycle of Violence

Now showing: “Hansel and Gretel: Witch Hunters”. Really.

My blog posts focus on life, love and the pursuit of happiness. Last year I focused on interpersonal relationships and a better understanding between men and women. I will continue with these posts because I believe that we need to come together one person and one relationship at a time. But, today I am taking a time out to talk about life and our pursuit of happiness.

With so much discussion … read more

Things Guy’s Guys Like

“Hey, just what is a guy’s guy, anyway?”

That’s a fair question that I hear a lot.  In an age where men have never been freer to be whoever they want, it’s never been less clear who they really are. Enter the Guy’s Guy, an updated, more casual, less macho version of the traditional Man’s Man. And unlike his predecessor, today’s Guy’s Guy celebrates the overdue recognition of women and sees their ascension as inevitable and a win-win for … read more

How to Make Valentine’s Day Work for You

Valentine’s Day is a day most of us dread.

It’s commercial, pressure-filled, exploitive, and most importantly– forced and unromantic. I’ll leave all of that to next week’s other Valentine’s Day post. But there are two ways to look at V-Day as it gets pitched our way each and every year. Whether it’s chocolate, flowers, jewelry, vibrating panties, weekend getaways, etc.—you name it and they’re selling it in fire engine red. Here are a few suggestions for how to not only … read more

What Women Don’t Know About Men (Part 1)

There are still some glaring misconceptions about men. Here are some truths.

1. We want you to win.This is a time of great recognition, achievement, and ascension for women. It’s long overdue and well-deserved. As I constantly state: women’s success is a very good thing for men. When women succeed we can all be happy, and have a little more cash in the pockets of our skinny jeans.You know that old saying, “Happy wife means a happy life”? … read more

Why Do Men Cheat?

It’s an age-old question. But what’s the age-old answer that no woman wants to hear? Because they can.

Just ask General Petraeus. Oops. I let that one slip out, didn’t I? Now that I’ve got your attention, let’s dig into the minds of men and explore this provocative subject. Please don’t shoot the messenger; your Guy’s Guy is here to serve and inform. That’s it. I’m not an expert, but I do have relevant experience. In fact, during … read more

What Is A Guy’s Guy And Why Does It Matter Now?

Over the past thirty years the paths of women and men have changed dramatically. While women have been on straight trajectory of achievement, accomplishment, and long overdue recognition, men now find themselves in a tough spot. This comes at a time when men have never been freer to be who they want, but it’s also never been less clear who they are. My novel, The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, tackles this issue through the power of story that gives women … read more

Why The Rolling Stones Matter To Guy’s Guys

Guys’ Guys need good music and for the past fifty years, the Stones have spun a wicked soundtrack. Like them or not, you have to admit the Stones have withstood time. Despite the arrival of disco, rap, hip hop, electronica, house, world, and competitors as talented as Nirvana, Guns and Roses and Led Zeppelin, only the Stones have kept it together and rolled for the past five decades. And while in six short years the Beatles songs … read more

The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to 2012 Movies

Sorry, our list does not include films about vampires, zombies, the end of the world, or Katy Perry.

I consider that a good start. The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to 2012’s Movies focuses on a select five films with relevancy for men and in particular, Guy’s Guys. Throughout the year we’ve been inundated with monsters and aliens, rom-coms, sequels, prequels, remakes, animated features, and adaptations of popular television shows. There have been hundreds of new movies released. Many of … read more

The Surprising Results of Fasting – A Six Day Experiment

Sometimes our world moves a bit too quickly for us to enjoy each moment in the fullest sense. So slowing down now and then can be a good thing. I recently came off of my first ever fast. And yes, it did slow me down among other things. Between the two days of drinking veggie shakes before and one day after, I did not eat solid food for nine days. It’s no picnic so you need a … read more