Why Men And Women Still Have Trouble Connecting

A forty-something friend of mine still thinks he can score dates by handing out his business card.

Unfortunately, this is a true story. After writing, promoting, and talking with people about my novel, The Guys’ Guy’s Guide To Love, I realized that men and women continue to drift apart, and the chasm is growing wider. Both sexes see the other through their own lens and ego, so they never really understand each other. It’s that simple, folks.

There are two … read more

Are You Better Off Single?

A recent study by the U.S. Census found that over 43% of Americans between 18 and 49 were single.

And over half of them were women. That number has increased by twenty percent since 1980. Amazing. And, only one person inhabits 46% of households. Well, it’s not the same person, but you know what I mean. So in many ways, we are becoming a nation of singles. There are pros and cons to being single and a bunch … read more

Why Do Men Cheat?

It’s an age-old question. But what’s the age-old answer that no woman wants to hear? Because they can.

Just ask General Petraeus. Oops. I let that one slip out, didn’t I? Now that I’ve got your attention, let’s dig into the minds of men and explore this provocative subject. Please don’t shoot the messenger; your Guy’s Guy is here to serve and inform. That’s it. I’m not an expert, but I do have relevant experience. In fact, during … read more

Understanding Men’s Natural Sex Drive

Sex is the epicenter of all healthy relationships.

Who wants to stay in a long-term relationship with a partner who doesn’t float your orgasmic boat? Maybe some of you have stayed in a sexually-unfulfilling relationship because of other wonderful qualities that your partner possesses. Maybe he makes a wonderful crème brûlée and he walks your Wheaten Terrier when it rains. But ultimately, if your sex life is not up to snuff, one day you’ll find yourself staring into the … read more

How to Jumpstart Your Dating Life in 2013

With New Year’s right around the corner, it is easy to get discouraged by thinking about all the things that sucked in 2012. From Sandy to horrible shootings… 2012 was a challenge. But a new beginning follows each year-end and it is up to you to take charge of your life. And the best way to get started is by having a plan, so here are some Guy’s Guy resolutions for sparking up your dating life and igniting love in the new year.

1. Let Go Of The Past

It’s easy to … read more

Sex on the First Date: Old Story, New Twist

You just met five minutes ago and he’s already thinking about the two of you in bed.

Ouch. I guess you were hoping for more, especially since your girlfriend gave him a thumbs up as a stand up guy.  But trust me; sex is already on his mind. Maybe it’s on yours as well.  So don’t fret. Take a deep breath and smile as you swirl that glass of Chardonnay. He’s just acting on instincts, and as my … read more

How To Know When It’s Time To Go

Yogi Berra said, “It ain’t over until it’s over,” but is this true?

In many instances, this Guy’s Guy says no. It can be over way before it’s officially “over”. I’m sure you have all been in one of those relationships where for a myriad of reasons you stick with it, even though there are overriding, unresolved issues that prevent it from growing. And that’s the point. Like a plant, healthy relationships keep blossoming. An unhealthy relationship remains … read more

If You Want Love, Think Like an Advertiser

Ever notice how those McDonalds commercials always show up right around lunchtime? You know it’s because that’s when your stomach is growling for something that will hit the spot – that Big Mac is looking especially good right now. Same thing happens with beer and Doritos ads during the timeouts of football games. Your nervous energy is craving savory foods to chomp and a cold beverage to wash them down. It’s called targeted advertising and it works. … read more

Sex with Your Ex: The Agony and The Ex-tasy

We’ve all been there. You look down at your phone and you see her face and number. You exhale and answer the call. A few hours later you’re drinking wine with her at an outdoor table near Gramercy Park. Two glasses of Chardonnay later you’re both hungry so you hit the Mexican joint nearby that you two used to enjoy. This time the enchiladas were not a flavorful as you recalled. 

An hour later the sun has gone … read more

Don’t Judge A Man By His Bag

You can’t deny it. Almost every guy you see in NYC carries a bag.

I mean everything from a nylon pouch with a string, to the ubiquitous Jansport backpack, to messenger bags and briefcases of all shapes and sizes. I’m definitely not referring to the dreaded metrosexual man purse or a fanny pack. People, including guys, in New York City (and not just in NYC) carry around a lot of crap and we need some way of schlepping it … read more