I was a skinny kid.
Now, along with many other men of a certain age, I wage an ongoing battle with my waistline. I’m not fat, but as someone who played three sports in school and has finished three marathons, I have pride about my appearance and it vexes me to no end when I look at the scale. I’m not in a bad place, but I’m not where I want to be. That said, I’ve dabbled in … read more
Nobody knows what men are doing anymore—especially the men. There’s no denying that the glass ceiling still exists, but things are changing. While women are on the rise, both in work and education, young men are experiencing a lag. They lack role models and many of their older counterparts are falling behind (and in some cases, falling off). Here are a few suggestions to help men thrive.
Celebrate women.
Men need to realize that women are not the enemy. … read more
The media began bemoaning the end of summer on September 1st.
Guess what? It continues for another few weeks. Let’s stay positive and recognize a handful of reasons why September is a great month and fall is a great season, Guy’s Guy style.
Farewell, tourists.
As a fan of the beach and the Jersey Shore, nothing pleases local inhabitants and beachgoers more than the disappearance of what are referred to as “Bennies”, tourists form northern NJ who come down the shore, … read more
I’m an East Coast guy who feels at home in SoCal.
I’m not sure if it’s because America has become so homogeneous or because there are so many New Yorkers who’ve relocated out west. But for some reason, as soon as the plane lands and I get my bearings, I’m good to go in SoCal. For context, I’m a Jersey guy living in Harlem, and like many New Yorkers, I’ve traveled the golden state numerous times for business … read more
Most of us have little patience. We want everything right now, especially when it comes to new love.
We spend hours thinking everything through and planning how it could play out, sometimes to the point where we’ve mentally visualized the entire relationship and the breakup before the first date even happens. It’s crazy, but I can understand it. We’re all crazy busy conducting our day-to-day lives and it’s a challenge to pause, exhale and allow a new relationship to grow organically. … read more
Every storm begins with a few drops of rain.
When I finished my last post on red flags when it comes to dating, I realized that I had just scratched the surface. Not to say that it’s all doom and gloom when it comes to finding “Mr. Right,” but here are a few more signs to avoid.
He Has A Double Standard About Sex.
Sex is territorial for men, and it’s also where many guys maintain a double standard. Guys … read more
Every Guy’s Guy has a best bud.
In the case of my novel, The Guys’ Guy’s Guide to Love, Max Hallyday, our protagonist and a guy with integrity is set against his lady-killer, roguish BFF, Roger Fox. And because summertime is all about movies—although summer 2013 seems to be a dismal one for movies—I humbly offer my top ten list of classic Guy’s Guy best bud films in no particular order. Drum roll, please.
The King of Comedy– In this … read more
You’ve heard the old adage about addition by subtraction, right?
Most women keep a mental list of the qualities they seek in their partner. Some lists are short and to the point. Many are long—way too long—and they’ll get in the way of finding The One. Your Guy’s Guy suggests that being mindful of a few red flags can save time and streamline your search process. If the man you’re seeing has issues with any of these four … read more
Whether it’s pressure from your job, family, finances or the weather, when you feel the temperature rise on the back of your neck there are ways get your chill on. This morning I ran the outer loop of Central Park at 7am. It was already sweltering at that early hour following a week of ninety-degree days. As I passed the reservoir on East 96th Street, I began telling myself, “I am cool. I am cool. I am cool.” … read more
It is the best of times. It is the worst of times…for dating.
The deepening integration of technology into our lives has, in many ways, pulled the world closer together. However, when it comes to developing basic social skills and maintaining a sense of privacy and decorum it has also pushed us further apart. Dating is a prime example of the fallout, with both men and women paying a price. Let’s take a quick look at how technology and social media makes dating … read more
