The advice I read from the plethora of dating gurus, the more I scratch head and wonder what’s really going on.
If men have really become so lame that they need to be reminded that texting photos of their private parts to prospective paramours is a bad idea, then the bar has been lowered too far. Keeping this in mind, I present to you five key areas where men can easily up their game and connect with women.
1. Honesty – … read more
Repeat after me—“I do not hate Valentine’s Day.”
But, I dread it and I’d like to have a chat with St. Valentine. He might be a saint, but he’s got some explaining to do. The myths behind this man are as confounding as the commercial celebration of love that sprang from his legend. Was he really beaten to death with clubs, beheaded after restoring sight and hearing to the daughter of his jailer, or was his legend a creation … read more
Valentine’s Day is a day most of us dread.
It’s commercial, pressure-filled, exploitive, and most importantly– forced and unromantic. I’ll leave all of that to next week’s other Valentine’s Day post. But there are two ways to look at V-Day as it gets pitched our way each and every year. Whether it’s chocolate, flowers, jewelry, vibrating panties, weekend getaways, etc.—you name it and they’re selling it in fire engine red. Here are a few suggestions for how to not only … read more
There are still some glaring misconceptions about men. Here are some truths.
1. We want you to win.This is a time of great recognition, achievement, and ascension for women. It’s long overdue and well-deserved. As I constantly state: women’s success is a very good thing for men. When women succeed we can all be happy, and have a little more cash in the pockets of our skinny jeans.You know that old saying, “Happy wife means a happy life”? … read more
A forty-something friend of mine still thinks he can score dates by handing out his business card.
Unfortunately, this is a true story. After writing, promoting, and talking with people about my novel, The Guys’ Guy’s Guide To Love, I realized that men and women continue to drift apart, and the chasm is growing wider. Both sexes see the other through their own lens and ego, so they never really understand each other. It’s that simple, folks.
There are two … read more
A recent study by the U.S. Census found that over 43% of Americans between 18 and 49 were single.
And over half of them were women. That number has increased by twenty percent since 1980. Amazing. And, only one person inhabits 46% of households. Well, it’s not the same person, but you know what I mean. So in many ways, we are becoming a nation of singles. There are pros and cons to being single and a bunch … read more
You just met five minutes ago and he’s already thinking about the two of you in bed.
Ouch. I guess you were hoping for more, especially since your girlfriend gave him a thumbs up as a stand up guy. But trust me; sex is already on his mind. Maybe it’s on yours as well. So don’t fret. Take a deep breath and smile as you swirl that glass of Chardonnay. He’s just acting on instincts, and as my … read more
As the end of summer approaches maybe your relationship has reached new heights or maybe it’s winding down. Either way, it seems apropos to share something that’s a bit more introspective courtesy of Rod, the quintessential Guy’s Guy who bats for the ladies by dishing out the truth about men. Rod is the pseudonym of Max Hallyday, the protagonist in my novel The Guys’ Guy’s Guide To Love. In the novel, Rod teaches women how to win by penning a column … read more
Fishing and dating – not so different
Yes, we’re almost at the end of another steamy summer in the city. Whether it’s enjoying a Dunkin’ Donuts Coolatta, a frosty brew, or just slouching down in your seat in a cool dark movie theater everyone has their own special way of relaxing and keeping cool in the hot weather. I’m a beach Guy’s Guy and I prefer chilling at my place at the Jersey Shore. No GTL for me, but lots … read more
After connecting online and finessing a great first meet up, what does a Guy’s Guy do to make sure he secures the next date? “Just don’t throw up on his shoes.” That’s what an ex-boss advised me before my meeting a potentially game-changing new client. It looked like a slam-dunk, but in advertising clients have the final say, and I needed the gig. The meeting went fine, but I was reminded to never take anything for granted. … read more
